Something that you definitely noticed when you became a mum is that you started to see your friends a lot less. It’s the usual story of your friends being over the moon during your pregnancy and planning a million ways that they can spoil your child, before slowly disappearing after your child is born.
Unfortunately, this is a tale that all mothers know all too well. Though the idea of being around a child might be fun in theory, when you are someone who doesn’t have kids, spending your time with someone else’s can be a bit overwhelming and even boring at times.
Before you had kids, you could probably do just about anything that you wanted and you didn’t have to worry about having to be responsible for another human being. However, after you have children you may not be able to make it to as many plans as you once did and events like hitting the town and having drinks may sound exhausting.
A very unfortunate but natural part of becoming a mother is that you lose some friends along the way, as not everyone will be able to cater to or understand your new lifestyle and responsibilities.
Though it can be understandable why you may lose friends after giving birth, it doesn’t make it anymore sad and frustrating. Just because you have children does not mean that you don’t want a social life too and it can really start to take a toll on your mental health when you have nobody to confide in or spend time with.
The friends that you do have may not be able to fit your schedule and they may not be able to understand your feelings if you express to them that you are feeling lonely after a child. If you are in a bit of a friend rut after having a child, you may have just accepted that this is your life from now on and you are just going to have to vent to someone that can’t even hold their own spoon for the foreseeable.
Being a mum does not mean that you have to be friendless and it actually opens you up to a brand new world of friends that you may not have ever had. The best kind of friend that you can have when you become a mum is a fellow mum and the best place to meet them is at mum clubs.
Here is a look into why mum clubs are a great place to meet friends.
You Have Common Grounds
A big reason that you likely lost touch with some friends after giving birth is that you don’t share the same common ground that you once did. However, if you make friends with someone that is already a parent, they will be well aware of the kind of lifestyle that you are currently living and they will be able to relate to you.
When you first join a mum club you may be shy and you may not be able to think of something to say. However, because you have children, you instantly have a topic of discussion that you can start off on. If you don’t have a lot to say about yourself, simply speak about your children and get to know about the other mum’s kids too.
Once you feel a bit more comfortable, you can then start to get to know each other on a deeper level and who knows, you might become lifelong friends.
Other Mums Are Desperate For Companionship Too
If you are desperate to find someone that you can speak to and reach out to, then it is likely that someone else in that mum club is too. You are not the only person that has become a bit more isolated after having your child and so you will be glad to know that you are not alone.
If you see another mum sitting to the side in the mum club, don’t be afraid to go and speak to her. It is likely that she is eager for a chat too and she will be more than happy to speak to you. If you are not good at breaking the ice, you could always try these wyr questions. Doing this is a great way to break the ice and also have a great time, which I am sure you both need.